when the tides of life turns against you? will you ride them?

“Never explain yourself to anyone .Because the person who likes you doesn’t need it, and the person who dislikes you won’t believe it”

I’ve always accepted myself as I am. Self acceptance is a prerequisite for becoming a healthy, integrated person. I am okay. I’m not perfect, but I don’t have to justify my imperfections. I don’t even have to pledge to fix them. I just have to acknowledge that they exist.I never paid attention to criticism either. Long ago I read a quote that I followed through my life path it says “Act likes the weather that pays no attention to criticism “and I must admit I’m happy with my beliefs.

My wish list for 2009 was ONE only. To teach myself the art of “letting go “as it has been a problem in my life throughout the years.

I‘ve always beaten myself when someone entered my life and left without reasons given or for reason he /she never gave .I spent days questioning  myself whys and maybes and the list of torturing myself was long  ! ….and it simply exhausted me and hurt me more.

 I found out that” letting go “was a big relief for me. I had to work hard with myself for this one small thing to reach my goal through 2009.

 I succeeded! I succeeded to accept the way that other people do things, and accept what happens in different situations. The truth that the only thing I can control Is, myself.

 I used more  often  in 2009 the word “WHATEVER ”, many friends found this word ridiculous., I find it not ridiculous at all , it just eliminate arguments , hard feelings and gives me  peace of mind .When I find myself misjudged or treated in a way I don’t deserve. I try to walk away fast and try not to let it affect me. I can’t control other persons behavior, change them, blame them .I know now that the outcomes aren’t in my hands and I accept it and whatever!

 For me it’s a victory I achieved through 2009 … I found out that the rules are VERY SIMPLE, if someone is ‘Into You’ he will let you know in NO UNCERTAIN TERM, and friends who love you will forgive you for the small mistakes you’ve done or said, add to this people who hardly know you and judge you, they shouldn’t have any place in my life.

I’ve always been a destiny woman .Luck or fate played a big role in my life.  I walked through my  entire  life planning ,worrying, passing sleepless nights  and I found at the end that something out of the blue just change all my plans ..Most of the time this destiny took me exactly where I wanted to go …rarely and seldom has it taken me where I have to be and fighting not to be there …

But does destiny has something to do with romance too?  I always thought it has something  to do with romance and the game of love .I  believed  that there was no action plan to find love .Love isn’t a gambling table in Las Vegas where professional gamblers  put their dollars and do everything in their power to make a plan and increase odds in their favor. For me however it’s simpler to put my dollars in the crap table, roll my dice, wait and hope the best.

Love, romance or the perfect man were never for me like buying a dream house that needs an action plan. I thought that accidently or by coincident and by being myself the simple and spontaneous girl I will find the right mate. …..I heard before from my friends:

 ”Where have all the good men (women) gone?” or, “All the good ones are taken!”

“I always answered that this wasn’t true. The good ones are still there and they will come to you when you searched the least and when it’s destined for you to meet them.

Was I wrong? Does finding the right person now need an action plan?

Do I have to read books about the rules of the do’s and don’ts on dates…Read more books about when and if you should call a man and many other plans about how to catch him and keep him and play hard to get !?Yes, I must know when to open up and when to play the mysterious.

 Serendipity the movie is unlikely to happen now, everything is getting more and more complicated.  

 So maybe I should change my beliefs for 2010 about romance and admit that there is nothing called love at first site. There‘s nothing called luck or fate .I should try more an action plan! The plan will be only 2 things:

1.  Not to open myself to anyone because even sincere feelings tend to be over stated and taken against me later. It pays to be subtle and mysterious.

2. Master my emotions. Wear a mask to hide my inside soul.

Now we come to the answer to my blog title “if the tides of life turns against you will you ride them? The answer is NO, I won’t!! I will just retreat or lie on my back and float.  

Welcome,to the love game .

It’s time for change. It’s time to do things differently.

I got my bear hug today before the New Year from my old lady neighbor ,I love .She’s sick in the hospital .I felt safe in her arms when she held me close  and  she passed her fingers through my hair .My heart pounded , raced  skipped a beat . My eyes were trying   hard to control my falling tears .Life changes  suddenly ,but a person  like this wonderful lady are like rocks and they  are priceless. This bear ,tender ,warm hug I will keep it with me through  this new coming year …

I whispered in her ears before leaving  …”thank you for loving me “

 WITH HER I WON’T NEED A PLAN TO FIND LOVE;-)

Bid adieu to 2009

Once again we find ourselves enmeshed in the Holiday Season, that very special time of year when we join with our loved ones. Oh look, yet another Christmas TV special!  How touching to have the meaning of Christmas brought to us by cola, fast food, beer or a lingerie! Who’d have ever guessed that product consumption, popular entertainment, and spirituality would mix so harmoniously??
Christmas is not as much about opening our presents as opening our hearts. Christmas is always a day of remembrance; a day in which we think of everything we have ever loved.

Even if it is a headache, a chore, and nightmare, it is a period of necessary defrosting any hard feelings we have. We might call a forgotten friend, be more thoughtful and kind. , lift someone whose spirits are dragging even by a simple compliment. Say “I love you ”more often  to  people we love, sometimes these 3 words are forgotton with our busy life.

As we bid adieu to 2009 soon and the clock strikes twelve on December 31st, people all over the world cheer and wish each other a very Happy New Year. It is difficult not to believe that the next year will be better than the old one! And this illusion is not wrong. Future is always better, no matter what happens. It will always give us what we need and what we want in secret. It will always bless us with right gifts and blessings. Thus in a deeper sense our belief in the New Year cannot deceive us…

As year 2009 wasn’t the best year for me so I’m really happy it’s soon over and  I hope that 2010 will be much better   …..

So do we need our attitude to change in order to make the coming year better?!

Well, maybe  we must stay in closer touch with our family and good friends .We should stop magnifying small problems .Speak kindly ,be more thoughtful and think before shooting from our lips words that can be hard to digest..

Maybe forgive an injustice done to us in 2009. Listen more. Apologize when you realize you are wrong. An apology never diminishes a person. It elevates him.

We shouldn’t abandon our old-fashioned principles. They never go out of style. When courage is needed, ask yourself, “If not me, who? If not now, when?”

However you decide to bring in the New Year, have a safe and happy one, and try to think about just one thing you’d like to change about yourself for the coming year. It seems like the older we get the harder it is to change even that one thing” … “I’m talking about myself now”!

May the Christmas season fill your home with joy ,your life with love ,health, hope and laughter .My warmest wishes for a Happy New Year …

This is a picture of my beautiful city Montreal

G!han

Healthy or Unhealthy

“The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.” -Barbara De Angelis  

What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Can anyone give the proper definition about love?

We use the word love so many times in different ways .Even a score of zero in tennis or squash it’s called 40 love!

Love has different varieties it can be romantic, unending, deep love shared between 2 people or love between more than two individuals that bond, platonic love, familial love, religious love and much more.

But what really is in my mind now is relationships and love .Articles always mention

 Healthy relationship or Unhealthy relationship and I wonder why they chose the word HEALTHY to define a relationship! Is it like healthy or unhealthy food we eat?

I looked closely at the word HEALTHY and the letters that it consists and I found out how this small word of 7 letters can mean a lot.

Let’s begin with the letter

 H

Honesty: Partners trust each other to follow through on promises.

Harmony: Two people in love make beautiful music together, they don’t need to be the same but together but their differences are like the harmonized musical notes .A couple who exhibits a sense of joy and calm when they’re together.

Heart: Having heart for one another means nourishing each other.

Honor: Is holding each other in high esteem.

Hot: They enjoy a mutually satisfying sex life.

 E

Equality: Respecting the fact that you both counts.

Empathy: Being able to feel what each other feel.

Energetic: Exchange of vibrations like electrical force that draws you to each other.

Enthusiasm: Excitement about being together.

Empowerment: Supporting each other to feel stronger.

A

Acceptance: Knowing that you approve of each other.

Accommodation: Making adjustments for each other’s need.

Appreciation: Being grateful and responsive for each other and never take anything for granted.

Agreements: Making and keeping agreements is essential for trust.

L

Love: Cherishing each other and holding one another dear.

Loyalty: Being devoted to each other.

Listening: Paying attention to what each other says.  Their wants, needs, feelings and emotions are freely expressed and accepted without shame or guilt.

Laughter: Humor and they take the time to have fun and relax with each other.

Lust: Longing and desire draws you like magnet to each other.

T

Trust: Rely on one another and having confidence and faith in each other.

Talking: Communicating is a key.

Time: Together making and creating time together.

Y

For YES…YES to welcome positive feelings .Yes to a healthy relationship .Yes to life .YES to make it work .Yes to compromise .Yes, to give each other what you need and finally yes to love; to a loving relationship that become natural and effortless. Remember “Love” is only a word till someone gets along and gives it a meaning.

when will it calm down !?

        Took me months to feel like writing anything in this blog .Right after Christmas I was just overwhelmed with my own problems that haven’t been completely solved till this present moment.  But at least I took some decisions and steps that made me feel better about them.

I read the news papers daily and it all makes me feel down. Millions of jobs loss, weakness in the stock markets and we’re in the middle a deadly serious and worst recession period that have ever hit this country. Makes me more frustrated reading about people legally charged with sorting the mess and get us out of all this, they are buggering out to expensive beaches for quarter of this year.

Reading the news confuses me  too .I stayed a whole week reading about the especially awkward act of the USA president when he attended the G20 summit in London ,his action appeared awkward since among dozens of world leader and their spouses ,handshakes abounded ,but there appeared to be no other bowing in the room ,but him!

In all this political mess we read about celebrities, their kids and their exotic vacations. One like Madonna who is appealing the decision not to allow her to adopt another African child! Doesn’t she get it?????? She jumped in bed with a 22 years guy while she forgot that she was 50 .She’s crazy about her three hours daily gym ,diets , plastic surgeries to prevent her aging process .Why the hell is   she seeking to adopt another poor kid and make him live  her mental disability ?

Don’t news papers have something better to talk about then this sickening subject?

Now today’s headlines scream about the SWINE FLU crisis, wearing masks etc .I think that when this swine flu has eventually passed through our country it will have killed less people than what the normal flu kills every winter.

I was wondering if one day we’ll open the news one day and find these titles:

 “Jobs available for ALL different kind of people “

” Interest rates in banks are sky rocketing. “

” The air we breathe is 100% pure and the food we eat is safe.”

“Harmony and peace are all around the world.”

” No more nuclear weapons and wars. “

Or some funny headlines maybe that can put a smile on our faces at least!

 ”For women only! No more diet, men don’t care if you look slim or fat they only look deeper to explore your soul “;-)

 ” A man refused to work after his death. “

Or maybe”Red tape holds up new bridges “! 

………….. ”New recession clothes”!!! ??;-)

 The picture on top of the article I found it funny, it shows how big companies logos look like during the recession …

Have a great recession period all of you who are jobless and try to  enjoy your obligatory vacation as much as you can ,while listening to the song “ What a wonderful world “!

no to holiday blues !

Cheerful music playing nonstop, brightly colored lighted trees, maddening crowds in every store!  You switch on the TV and all what you see  advertising the perfect gift ,the perfect man  thinking about his sweetheart’s  perfect present , diamond rings , keys for a new car, ,Prada purses ,Louis Vuitton accessories and Victoria Secret underwear’s ! At the end of this perfect scene someone’s voice pops out and says CALL NOW! BUY NOW!

 The holiday seasons are all about these advertising now, it makes you feel that if you’re single you’re missing all the fun! From Christmas kissing in the snow, unwrapping gifts with Mr. Perfect, not to mention smooching with the perfect man on New Year’s Eve.

I went for a girls gathering and we laughed about all this, some of them are married, some divorced, others happy singles! Even though we don’t share the same status, still the season left us saying “BAH, HUMBUG” to love .

We can’t blame women that feel left out by romance on the holidays after all this spectacle we daily live! Being single doesn’t have to mean you are alone and lonely, so don’t let the holidays get you down.. Fill up your holiday time with gratitude for the blessings you have. Trust that when the time is right, you will meet the person meant to be with you. Until then, you have a lot of living to do right now.

Don’t let yourself drown and feel holiday’s blues that can prevent you to enjoy the real spirit of Christmas. It doesn’t have to come by the perfect gift or even the presence of a perfect man “who doesn’t  really exist”!

Turn things around by simply counting your blessings. All of us have things that can be thankful for….. a steady job ,decent place to live ,our  kids , family and wonderful friends ! 

The Christmas spirit actually is thinking and giving people who are less fortunate than yourself  .  Doing some volunteer work to share the good things you have in your life, inspire you to do some great for someone else .Be thankful that you didn’t gamble in stocks and lost your money due to this economic woes. Be thankful that you aren’t in an unhealthy relationship, instead you are a happy FREE single .Be thankful you still have a job ,while so many lost their jobs  due to  this recession period we are passing .

Happiness during the holidays as well as the rest of the year depends on the attitude you choose by being positive, cheerful, and attractive.

I decorated my Christmas tree, put some more lights than usual .I didn’t whine like every year when my boys found an excuse to escape from doing this job!

I enjoyed seeing them coming home with a big smile when they saw the tree lighted and they hugged me.

I will wake up early on Christmas Eve and bake my pecan tart and a roast turkey with Pureed sweet potatoes and peas” yummy “.I’ll take it to mom who invites the family for Christmas Eve’s dinner.

I decided with my girl friends to pamper ourselves and book a massage at the spa!!!!!!!!

Adding to this the normal volunteer work I’m used to do every year, It brings joy to my heart and nourishes my soul.

Finally if Christmas has you down, think that no life is perfect. And if something didn’t work well for you this year next year will be better!

To all my friends

 

I’ve always believed through my life that people walk into my life for a reason, nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Still, when those people cross my life I’m not aware of the reason; if I knew the reason wouldn’t I know what to do with this person? As time passes by my perspective to see things changed.

Does it really make a difference to understand why people cross my life, whether they are for a reason, season or a life time?   Why do I have to place those people in any of these categories? Do I have to give this unplanned coincidence a name? Do I have to worry like I used to do before and wonder if they will stay or walk away? Sometimes out of the blue and without you doing anything wrong this person will say anything and the relationship or friendship just ends. Sometimes they just walk away without saying a word .Was it for a season or a reason …?  Who really cares! Somehow they made a “little” or” huge” difference in my life.

Some left significant footprints, memories and joy of sharing this time together .Some when I recall they bring a happy smile to my face, wondering what happened to them and wishing they never had to walk away or leave. I simply have a small place in my heart that will hold them forever. Others they just walked into my life and out of it. They left absolutely nothing to remind me of them, they seldom or never cross my mind. Still, life challenges made me grow!

Now I just trust my life has a road mapped or planned .These people are God sent always even if they come for a short time .Maybe they are just sent to assist me or support  me during this specific time of my life ?!Maybe to make me laugh, to listen, to introduce me to new things I have never experienced before. Maybe they crossed my life because they need me in their life as well as I need them.

Now I learned to accept the plan, relax, unwind, breath into my life as it is .Life is only moments.

I just felt that I might have missed to tell these special persons how much they meant to me with whatever they have given me and how they made a difference in my life. I don’t know what tomorrow have in store so before it’s too late I wish to say something to all my friends who are still here and the ones who are gone but touched my soul by any means “Thank You “.

Thank you all  that crossed my path ,who heard my babbling ,who lifted my spirit when needed  ,who shared my happy moments as well as my sad ones .Special persons  who gave me love and made me love back, who allowed me to be part of their life too  for a short or long time .Thank you for caring about me without the urge to change me .

Thanks to all of you who made my heart smile one day, to those who tried to show me the brighter side of things. I’m grateful to all of you .I’m all the better because somewhere, somehow someone has given me the chance of a true embodiment of friendship for as long as it was allowed to survive.

Now if you love someone and he/she is still in your life, show them that their presence is never taken for granted before they walk away or leave.

You all made of me the person I am right now. YES! You made a difference.

Wherever you are now my friends I still owe you A BIG THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. Now I leave you wondering while you read this, if you left footprints in my heart or just footprints in the sand that were erased by troubled waters.

the power of a smile that costs nothing and give much

What is a smile? Is it such a big deal? Does a smile confuse an approaching frown? A smile is something priceless, inexpensive, powerful, contagious, it makes you appear more confidant and capable and it’s the shortest distance between two people .It’s simply a silent form of communication. It lasts a moment but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever .The most beautiful face in the world wouldn’t be pleasing with a down tuned lips and a sour expression. Try to add a genuine smile to your face and you will understand what I mean. Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed or stolen- for it is something that is of no value to anyone, until it is given away.
It’s very important for my job to wear always a smile, it’s just the window to tell people they are home .Sometimes my heart is heavy or I just wake up in a weird mood and don’t really wish to smile .Still as soon as I reach work and the first person I meet smiles at me and I smile back, my smile remains for the rest of the day. My world seems brighter later, no matter how grouchy I was feeling. A smile changes your looks and as mark twain says “wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been “.

 People normally smile back to me! Of course there are what we can call petty tyrants, the world seems to be full of them .They are defensive, angry and quite wounded they won’t smile back.

 Remember you don’t wear a smile to make people like you! Therefore I learned to let rude people just be people .They no longer upset me and I don’t’ take it personal at all.

Today I was having a smoke outside and it was a dark, rainy day and my heart was heavy. I found a handsome gentle man walking out of his car with heavy steps and a sad face. He was coming towards me.   I spontaneously gave him a friendly look and a big smile. This man smiled back and told me “it’s a sunny day today”. I looked at him and replied “hmmm! Sunny? And he smiled back and said” YES, it’s definitely sunny, I see it in your smile “and he thanked me for making his day looks brighter! I have an extra wrinkle on my face, I know it doesn’t come from age but from smiling
did you know that it takes seventeen muscles to smile and forty-three to frown. most smiles are started by another smile .A simple  smile can  break ice, makes peace ,increase your face value and always comes  back to you.

Today, grace a stranger one of your smiles.  It might be the only sunshine he sees all day and who knows how far your original smile will travel

So please smile more and if you are too tired to do it, I’ll give you one of mine
Always remember to be happy because you never know who’s falling in love with your smile.  ~Author Unknown

Across The Mile “Poem”

This is one of my favorite poem .It was written by me on the 2nd of April 2007 …I love it so much and if you visit my site http://www.geocities.com/gigi_113/gihan.htm You’ll find many poems written ,all with heart felt moments .Some are written out of the blue when my muse visits me at nights .Some are written after a life experience , a regret ,saddness felt or just happy moments .Every poem has a memory in my heart . Since my blog is hitting more and more visitors each day ,I would like to share one of my best poem written .

 

I sit here at peace with thoughts very small;

With words of heartfelt dreams hidden here within my fear;

Dreams of words of life inside, judged by me to be denied;

What dwells in that space in my mind?

 

Late at nights my muse visits, to spout unending words of conscious flow.

Never knowing what will surface next when nerves touch the air, my feelings go!

I am liberated and elated, I’m who I am. Blinded by the fright of seeing too much;

Fear resides in me hiding in plain view, afraid to be left behind without you.

 

Sitting lonely in my place, Fear not to feel life’s grace;

Thoughts drifting towards you; I float in endless maddening space,

My soul feels so bold, shinning spirit, love untold;

I share with you the depth of my unending soul, trying to unfold.

 

I look too far and see beyond you, I run so fast ahead;

Forgetting my fingers typing; letting only my soul on fire to lead me instead;

I don’t want to look through you tonight, allow me to look into your eyes so deep;

I will let you touch me slow. After all, night dreams are only mine to keep.

 

Caress me with your palette; make me the creation of your loving light;

Make my heart your master peace and caress my blank mind;

Pull me round your chilled body; wrap me in your arms of pure delight;

Keep your soul with me shining bright, Please, embrace me, I feel lonely tonight.  

 

 Add more layers with your palette, color my life with passion;

Caress those lonely places, your tender body knows;

Let’s go together far away to spots we’ve never seen;

Touch me with your fingers. Heal me in my tortured night dreams.

 

Shaking now, I’m breathless, Feelings I find impossible to express;

Your voice I hear and make my soul undress;

Leaving myself completely to your magic touches;

Suddenly, my inner fears return .Afraid to awake and won’t find you near.

 

I fear the loss of your sweet songs, afraid to find you gone;

I run around with trembling fear, you hold me back to keep near;

I taste you with each breath I take; I feel your truth beyond mistake;

Passion rich, passion wild engulfs my bliss, feeling your love like needle prick.

 

You penetrate every little part of me; I start to die from my inside pain;

Sweet pain of hidden passion‘s final drain;

Breathless now beside you with our hearts merged in one beat;  

Feeling safer I get closer and closer to you, finally now I can sleep.

Written by the imperfect me to the unknown  

Hang it up,till you get it right this time !

 

 

 

 

Finding love has no age limit. I’m talking about women who are somewhere in between their 40^s and their 50^s and are still single. Most of them it’s their choice to remain single, they don’t wish to walk on their old foot prints and hang on to the wrong man.

The social scene has changed dramatically for women at this age who might have some baggage BUT still don’t need a porter to carry it. .Aren’t all these single women still dreaming that their knight in shinning armor is somewhere out there .There is nothing but a good romance regardless of  age . They might dream to meet their George Clooney, Jude Law or Mr. Big! . A man with substance, integrity and sincerity. 

 These women became picky, choosy and more assertive in their prospective lovers. Now online dating sites is the way most women use to meet their future dream mate .It cuts out on having to go out to find the special someone .Some women were lucky on these dating sites, some were never lucky, still never say never. I think it’s fantastic if it works still I hear some horror stories about these sites.

I read an article that made me smile .The author said “if you want to buy a stamp you go to the post office, if you need to fix a car you go to the garage, if you need gas you go to the gas station and if you need a man you go to dating sites, that’s the service where you check out

It’s risky because you meet men who don’t tell you their genuine status .Many are married, needy, clingy, obsessed with body types and the list is long .

There are many men out there on the look-out, some dying to get a steady relationship, .Some just want to play the field and have many women on the go .Men at certain age do go through a “mini-pause” phase and seeks younger women to boost their morals .But doesn’t it take all kind to make this wonderful world?!

So what do these women who wish a companion “not a baggage carrier” have to do?

My yoga instructor said it perfect “I’m strong because I’m vulnerable!” In other words, being real and imperfect with people is actually a very attractive quality .Just being yourself is the way to demonstrate how wonderful you are.

Women between 40 and 50 on their second time round are realists .They are looking for someone who is compatible with them, who will accept them for who they are and will be a good friend .They won’t accept less what they expect still. It’s hard to find someone special second time round .By the time you hit your 40^s, you are less likely to go to duns and pubs, you are settled already in your life and have friends, all this means that you don’t have the opportunities to meet new people .You can also   meet these wonderful, emotionally available men in a book store or in front of a fridge in a super market!

Joel Grey sang “If You Could See Her through My Eyes “

He sees her charm and beauty even though he knows these virtues are not seen by others .The lyrics remind me of how we feel when a suitor communicates his appreciation of elements of us for which we don’t share the same fondness .Perhaps he compliments YOU on the characteristics that you haven’t learned to embrace. He thinks you are clear and decisive, when you think you can be stubborn .He likes your independence that you think that you don’t have great skills by not including others in your plans .He salivates your body shape when all you think that its’ not perfect .He just see only the good in his beloved .

Isn’t this what we all women at our age are searching for?

If someone compliments you just learn to say thank you! You are in essence saying he is wrong and his power of observation is failing .just keep this to yourself, please . He sees you through HIS eyes .So begin to see YOU through his eyes too .Embrace yourself, endear yourself and at this time you’ll find someone to love you.

The bottom line there is someone for you somewhere . Finding love over 45 isn’t a mission too or a second job .Enjoy life as it is and see what comes of it .Smell the roses and believe there is no age limit and it can happen when you least expect it.

So if you are tired of being single ,weary from dating scenes ,feels like giving up on finding true love !consider this :Smile more and make eye contact .Break the walls around your heart .Start doing more of the things you love .Say “YES ” more then you say “NO” .Yes to love ,yes to change ,yes to adventure and yes to opportunities .Go out of your comfort zone.

Being single is much better then being with the wrong mate! Search for the man who isn’t pretentious and who doesn’t only try to impress you.A man who takes life slowly and live it with simplicity. A man who is like a breath of fresh air in a polluted world .A man with whom you’ll feel comfortable being around as if cradled in God’s arms.  A man with a sense of humor that makes you always feel younger and you won’t get bored with him later in life .Someone who will chuckle your woes away. A man who is gentle who knows what to say at the right time .The man who isn’t scared to say I love you. Who can communicate and argue less .Attitude is everything.

Go away from Mr. I KNOW IT ALL.! The one who makes sex and not love, I call them the “hit and run” type

Avoid the trash talker, the dictator and the snoozer, jerk, cheater, liar and loser. Enjoy your 40^s single if you don’t find Mr. Right for you.

Hit your 50^th with proud that you still look gorgeous, young, smarter and a proud woman with experience. We don’t need love only now, we need some common sense too! Deal or no deal?   

 

Good luck finding your Mr. Yummy! ;-)

mccain or obama will this make a difference to the middle east?

 I know you’ll find it weird that I write about this subject and I think I’m better known writing about  matters of heart, life and love.;-)

But after reading the book “A War Of Nerves “written by Ben Shepherd .I would like to share with you some thoughts .This book is really interesting and gives us a fascinating history of war neuroses .It breaks your heart to read how these young men suffered and cracked from the world wars through Vietnam and up to the gulf war.

Now that soon the Bush administration is coming to an end and it’s election time in America. It makes me wonder what will happen next to the Middle East crisis! Do we have to be categorized by being either a  Bush hater or geopolitical naïf if we disagree with the American occupation in iraq?  Iraq was not in league with Osama bin Laden and al Quada, whom the administration blamed for the 9/11 attacks. There is absolutely no evidence  that they support al Quada  .The Bush administration simply used 9/11 to justify the invasion of Iraq, though they had nothing whatsoever to do with each other .They claimed that the WMD was too grave and urgent to wait . They sent weapons inspectors and they claimed  that Saddam kicked out the inspectors.This wasn’t only false but it masks the actual truth, which is that the administration told the inspectors to leave because of the looming attack. I just can’t understand why they focused on Iraq rather then any other country !? Americans claim that its central purpose in invading Iraq was to bring democracy to the country and to the Middle East. At the same time, however, it has done next to nothing and the Middle East remains a complete chaos and the situation is worse and worse that might end with a civil war in Iraq or a WORLD WAR 3! .

 Americans are aware now that George Bush’s invasion of Iraq to protect the United States from the threat of terrorism was legitimate, or yet another example of a president sporting like a king on his white horse, at the expense of the American people, the troops, the Iraqis, and the world.  

This time of election is a critical time for americans .The sudden death of Hillary Clinton’s  campaign ended the hope of the former first lady to be the first American woman .Still there is no doubt that I admire her. She was strong enough just to endure this long hectic campaign ,she has reached a stage where no American woman has ever gone before and made it more possible for women to make the race to the White House more attainable. After her surrender , smart Clinton is angling herself now to be Obama’s running mate for the position of vice-president and Obama might include her as he wishes to win over Clinton’s voter …Well, isn’t this the politics game ? 

Now the question is ..McCain or Obama ..Will this make any  difference to our countries? Will ever people from the Middle East survive a peaceful life? Do we really matter to them and our future is their future as Obama recently stated !? Americans are completely aware that their domestic economic concerns are related to the Middle East .The sky rocketing price of oil is the result to the insecurity in the gulf .Will they withdraw the 140,000 US troops in Iraq ..?

Time will tell..But I doubt it … !

If I receive no feed back on this article ,I’ll go back writing about “Sex And The City ” and Middle age women crisis and leave the Middle East alone;-)