Finding love has no age limit. I’m talking about women who are somewhere in between their 40^s and their 50^s and are still single. Most of them it’s their choice to remain single, they don’t wish to walk on their old foot prints and hang on to the wrong man.

The social scene has changed dramatically for women at this age who might have some baggage BUT still don’t need a porter to carry it. .Aren’t all these single women still dreaming that their knight in shinning armor is somewhere out there .There is nothing but a good romance regardless of  age . They might dream to meet their George Clooney, Jude Law or Mr. Big! . A man with substance, integrity and sincerity. 

 These women became picky, choosy and more assertive in their prospective lovers. Now online dating sites is the way most women use to meet their future dream mate .It cuts out on having to go out to find the special someone .Some women were lucky on these dating sites, some were never lucky, still never say never. I think it’s fantastic if it works still I hear some horror stories about these sites.

I read an article that made me smile .The author said “if you want to buy a stamp you go to the post office, if you need to fix a car you go to the garage, if you need gas you go to the gas station and if you need a man you go to dating sites, that’s the service where you check out

It’s risky because you meet men who don’t tell you their genuine status .Many are married, needy, clingy, obsessed with body types and the list is long .

There are many men out there on the look-out, some dying to get a steady relationship, .Some just want to play the field and have many women on the go .Men at certain age do go through a “mini-pause” phase and seeks younger women to boost their morals .But doesn’t it take all kind to make this wonderful world?!

So what do these women who wish a companion “not a baggage carrier” have to do?

My yoga instructor said it perfect “I’m strong because I’m vulnerable!” In other words, being real and imperfect with people is actually a very attractive quality .Just being yourself is the way to demonstrate how wonderful you are.

Women between 40 and 50 on their second time round are realists .They are looking for someone who is compatible with them, who will accept them for who they are and will be a good friend .They won’t accept less what they expect still. It’s hard to find someone special second time round .By the time you hit your 40^s, you are less likely to go to duns and pubs, you are settled already in your life and have friends, all this means that you don’t have the opportunities to meet new people .You can also   meet these wonderful, emotionally available men in a book store or in front of a fridge in a super market!

Joel Grey sang “If You Could See Her through My Eyes “

He sees her charm and beauty even though he knows these virtues are not seen by others .The lyrics remind me of how we feel when a suitor communicates his appreciation of elements of us for which we don’t share the same fondness .Perhaps he compliments YOU on the characteristics that you haven’t learned to embrace. He thinks you are clear and decisive, when you think you can be stubborn .He likes your independence that you think that you don’t have great skills by not including others in your plans .He salivates your body shape when all you think that its’ not perfect .He just see only the good in his beloved .

Isn’t this what we all women at our age are searching for?

If someone compliments you just learn to say thank you! You are in essence saying he is wrong and his power of observation is failing .just keep this to yourself, please . He sees you through HIS eyes .So begin to see YOU through his eyes too .Embrace yourself, endear yourself and at this time you’ll find someone to love you.

The bottom line there is someone for you somewhere . Finding love over 45 isn’t a mission too or a second job .Enjoy life as it is and see what comes of it .Smell the roses and believe there is no age limit and it can happen when you least expect it.

So if you are tired of being single ,weary from dating scenes ,feels like giving up on finding true love !consider this :

Smile more and make eye contact .Break the walls around your heart .Start doing more of the things you love .Say “YES ” more then you say “NO” .Yes to love ,yes to change ,yes to adventure and yes to opportunities .Go out of your comfort zone.

Being single is much better then being with the wrong mate! Search for the man who isn’t pretentious and who doesn’t only try to impress you.A man who takes life slowly and live it with simplicity. A man who is like a breath of fresh air in a polluted world .A man with whom you’ll feel comfortable being around as if cradled in God’s arms.  A man with a sense of humor that makes you always feel younger and you won’t get bored with him later in life .Someone who will chuckle your woes away. A man who is gentle who knows what to say at the right time .The man who isn’t scared to say I love you. Who can communicate and argue less .Attitude is everything.

Go away from Mr. I KNOW IT ALL.! The one who makes sex and not love, I call them the “hit and run” type

Avoid the trash talker, the dictator and the snoozer, jerk, cheater, liar and loser. Enjoy your 40^s single if you don’t find Mr. Right for you.

Hit your 50^th with proud that you still look gorgeous, young, smarter and a proud woman with experience. We don’t need love only now, we need some common sense too! Deal or no deal? 

 

 

Good luck finding your Mr. Yummy! ;-)